Description

This piece is my story during the last 18 month. Each piece symbolized different aspect of my experience. The following is the description of each component and it is followed the narrative of my story.

• Frame: The window frame represent my prison. I have been the prisoner of my stalker. Stalking is integral part of malignant narcissistic abuse . One doesn't go without the other. The theme of prison is repeated on the background . The bars on the canvas represent roads and prison bars. You get into your car thinking you can leave the narcissistic abuse and stalking. But. you can not. In reality the roads are like hallway in an asylum. One keeps banging on the wall trying to get out.

• Paper: The spread sheet and the data in the back ground stands for computer. It is an attempt to manage the chaos created by the narcissist. The computer rejects the impossible tasks and spits out the sheets.

• "?" The question mark here is about integrity of the data that is presented. Off course, portion of the data is distorted. But, what is the source of the distortion. Does that come from pre existing cognitive dissonance, or does it come from the cognitive dissonance that is created by narc abuse and stalking (stroop effect).

• DATA: The data section represent my ignorance that I think i can shed lights into the minds of the flying monkeys'.

• Clarity: The absence of the clarity of details symbolized disassociation.

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Threesomes

The Threesomes were not my intension. They were all without my permission. Like the other 39 people, I was coercively manipulated into 39 distinct threesome. Each Threesome was between the person who I have established a no contact boundary, a member of my community of friends and I.

Threesome (Triangulation)

Reluctantly, My solution to the Threesomes was "avoiding people". More friends meant more Threesome and closeness to my existing friends meant more intense psychological and emotional trauma bonding.

To avoid the situation spawning any further, I limited my contact with friends. The occasional contact was limited to a salutation like “Happy Wednesday” which usually was followed by sharing my recent art work

People started worrying about me. I was showing all the symptoms of “Borderline Personality Disorder”. But, I don’t think that they realize I was suffering from malignant narcissistic abuse. Both conditions show the same symptoms as you might know.

Often friends tried to figure out what is wrong. My answer was my usual salutation. “Happy day of the week” like Happy Wednesday.

Hopefully, this work would help them to understand that they are experiencing the emergence of my new strain of "PTSD" ,. which is very different from the the "PTSD" that I had, when I came to 12 steps program.

So, I decided that it is time to let them in a little at a time.

This piece is about my experience with the emotional, psychological and sexual abuse in the 12 steps meetings.

I didn’t do it before as many friends expected me to. One reason was that I wasn’t ready at the time. But the main reason was that I tried to understand the nature of the abusive behavior.

I can now say that I understand the nature of malignant narcissistic and histrionic abuse. Off course, That is after taking a year and half of intense mistreatment. as describe in the following segments.

That is how, I involuntarily became the scapegoat and the villain of a play, which was the reenactment of the narcissist 's childhood trauma. Off course, the director 's script needed a golden child as protagonist.

Instead of one, he found many in my community of friends. who are suited for the roll .

He cycled through each Threesome and engaged me in a drama called enmeshment and infantile trauma bonding. I must say many of the friends got engaged unknowingly. In fact , they did this out of the kindness of their heart. But, I know, they are also the victim of the narcissist. In the eye of the narcissist, they are just a lunching platform for the narcissistic attacks,

Anyway, That is the plot of the story , which I like to call "The Naughty Jolly Happy Man Show". It was occasionally jazzed up with viciousness, sometimes sexual and other time through other destructive means.

In the story, the image of a five year old boy has been reincarnated in the body of a man on the social security. He is running around and throwing temper tantrum. To my bad fortune, I was caught in the middle of this storm .

The storm that included, sexual abuse and in particular, the high exposure hoovering. It is crucial to understand these incidents in the context of trauma bonding and nothing more..

Presentation

narcissistic framing

I have reflected on what is the best way to present my story. I though the best way was to do an art piece that display the content of my diary. They include the detailed information about the nature of each incident that I have been having.

They are on display in the printout of the spreadsheets.

Overall there were around 300 incidents of triangulation and electronic abuse. In each case the person who I had “no contact agreement” broke his word and made the contact anyway. Through proxy that is.

All the triangulations were done by the way of narcissistic framing as shown the above :image.

Nearly half of the incidents were through electronic means , where he disguised with false aliases.

The rest were with real people.

I have listed the tally of teach category of the narcissistic attacks and number of occurrences of each category.

Tally of the Narcissistic attacks

*Note: I over looked to include the narcissist's favorite weapon. That is "welcoming with one hand and covertly striking with two".

Sexual Component Of Violence Of Stalking

The piece was toned down in order to avoid overpowering the emotional and psychological aspect of the stalking. I plan to do a piece exclusively about "sexual" aspect of it in future . For now, I share his love/text ,that I have recently received through spear-phishing .

The fact that I am not gay is left for the audience's interpretation. I just leave you with the concept of "cycle of abuse" in Trauma Bonding as specified by Patrick Carnes:

Narcissistic Abuse and the Law

Although it is not illegal in the United States , i am hoping this work could help a little to bring the issue into the spotlight for public awareness.

Good news is that the modern world after centuries of denial has start taking serious action on it.

France was the first country to illegalized the Narcissistic Abuse in 2010.

Ireland and England followed suit almost a decade later.

Coercive manipulation is now illegal in England.

The Catholic Church, also after centuries of denial, acknowledge the Narcissistic Abuse in 1976. It allowed it as a condition for annulment in the marriage. That was based on the premises that a narcissist can not perform the human function in a marriage.

This is an opportunity to bring into the spotlight "the tradition 3" of many of the 12 steps programs. It is broken as it is. A narcissist can not perform the human function of recovery . The rooms is no place for the "Cluster B" personality disorder.

Narcissistic Abuse In Art and literature

Although there is a frequent appearance of the issue in the movies such as the "Fatal Attraction", it was the great Shakespeare who brought it into the public awareness first. In his masterpiece "Othello", he portrayed the nature of a narcissist in the character "Iago".

Several hundred years later, the Oscar wining movie , "Gaslight", reemphasized the problem.

New Jersey Law about Stalking

Section 2C:12-10 - Definitions; stalking designated a crime; degrees.

1. a. As used in this act:

(1)"Course of conduct" means repeatedly maintaining a visual or physical proximity to a person; directly, indirectly, or through third parties, by any action, method, device, or means, following, monitoring, observing, surveilling, threatening, or communicating to or about, a person, or interfering with a person's property; repeatedly committing harassment against a person; or repeatedly conveying, or causing to be conveyed, verbal or written threats or threats conveyed by any other means of communication or threats implied by conduct or a combination thereof directed at or toward a person.

(2)"Repeatedly" means on two or more occasions.

(3)"Emotional distress" means significant mental suffering or distress.

(4)"Cause a reasonable person to fear" means to cause fear which a reasonable victim, similarly situated, would have under the circumstances.

Above is a portion of the New Jersey law.

"reasonable person to fear" is subjected to interpretation for people with the existing PTSD.

Reference

Malignant Narcissistic Personality Disorder

• MALIGNANT Narcissists: Everything you need to know (Part 1/3)

• MALIGNANT Narcissists: Everything you need to know (Part 2/3)

• MALIGNANT Narcissists: Everything you need to know (Part 3/3)

• The Malignant Narcissist in the workplace

Histrionic Personality Disorder

• What is Histrionic Personality Disorder?

DATA

Below is the link to all the data, They are the data from Spring 2019 to Jan 2021 .

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